The Dating Black Book!

        PREFACE: The Scorpion and the Frog

One of the great stories in Eastern Philosophy concerns two animals: a scorpion and a frog. The tale goes that one day a scorpion was trapped on the shore of a river, and he needed to get to the other side. He asked a frog he saw swimming out in the water to come get him and take him across.

The frog refused. “You are a scorpion,” the frog said. “If I take you on my back, you’ll sting me.” The scorpion said that was foolish, of course he wouldn’t sting him because then he would drown in the river and die, too. The frog thought about it, and agreed that it wouldn’t make sense.

He let the scorpion on his back, and then started paddling across the river. When the frog was halfway out, the scorpion stung him. As the frog was dying and they both began to slip under the water, he asked the scorpion why he did it. “It’s my nature. I am a scorpion,” he said. “And scorpions sting.”

The essential interpretation of this story is that every creature has a nature, and you cannot argue against it, or expect it to change. You must accept it for what it is. For example, the nature of my dog is that he will only bark; he will never talk to me in English.

To expect otherwise would not only be slightly crazy, but it would leave me disappointed for the rest of my life. I “would expect something he could never do.” The same is true of our expectations of women. They have a nature, which we are about to analyze and discuss. To argue against these things – to argue against the way things are – is to cause certain frustration, anxiety, and anger.

There are certain traits that people have, and you cannot wish or hope them to be different; they can only be accepted. If someone’s behavior makes you angry or tense, then it is your fault, not theirs. You are the one reacting to them.

Remember to see things as they are, not as you wish them to be. Be brave enough to face the Principle of Truth.

                                                                       You Are A Winner!

I’m going to assume you’re a winner. You must be. How do I know? Because you are doing what most men will not do: You are seeking to better your understanding of women and relationships. Think about it, women are given all the advantages over men in the area of relationships.

They’re brought up on a diet of “women’s magazines, romance novels, gossip and socialization” with their peers to learn how it all works. Women share information freely, and they help each other out.

Men? We’re all alone out here, a part of our stoic nature, I suppose. When was the last time you asked a male friend how to handle a relationship situation? And if you have, which is rare, I’ll bet the information you got was about as useful as a porno movie featuring Rosie O’Donnell.

Men are socialized as individuals, relying on our own wits and wiles. Here’s what we’re going to do: We are going to use our male strengths, the way women have used theirs for countless centuries, and we’re going to play their game by our rules.

I’m going to blend in some Eastern Philosophy, some sales and techniques of persuasion, some psychology, and anything else I can find to give you the edge. I’m going to give you tips, pointers, specific things to say, situations, tricks and traps, mental attitude adjusters, inspiration, wisdom from the best, and role models to emulate.

This is coming from the real world, not another fluffy book in the self-help section of Borders that tells you the way to a woman’s affections is through Prince Charming your way into her heart. You don’t need to be feminized; you need information to make the right decisions and give women what they’re really looking for.

I’m going to give you the information you need to make better decisions about the dating relationships you enter. This program will help you understand women, get more dates, and have more success in your dating life!

You see, your goal is to date enough women that you will gain more experience, determine what you’re looking for, and have the self-confidence to get it. It’s not about treating every dating experience as if you have to find someone to keep forever. (It’s okay to date with no purpose other than dating.)

I’ve Tried It All!

I’ve tried it all. The good and the bad. I’ve joined dating services, done the singles bars, online dating, placed personals, and attended speed-dating. I’m here to give you knowledge from experience :  “20+ years of dating.”

I’ve made many mistakes, and I’ve had a lot of success. The truth is, I learned more from the failures, so I wrote this to save you some of that pain and give you all of the gain. I feel I have a gift of perception, to see the dynamics that evolve between men and women, and I want to spread this word so that men and women will benefit.

Take what I give you and own it. Make it personal and authentic, memorize it, re-write it, and then get to work. Consider this the dojo – the training room for the arena you’re about to enter. This book will give you the finest martial arts moves on the block. Your Kung Fu will be the best.

When we’re done, you’re going to have knowledge that most men will glimpse but never understand. Remember the words of Goethe:

“Knowledge is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.”

If you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve been getting.